It is a realty in today’s modern world that almost all of us are struggling with one thing — putting down our phones.
We know that putting down phone would do us good, but notifications, news, and endless scrolling keep us hooked.
But often, when we can’t disconnect from our phone, we feel a mix of irritation and frustration.
But the real solution isn’t just switching off our devices, but learning the power of solitude. Mr. Jay Shetty gave us this solution.
The Struggle to Disconnect Our Phones
Many people admit that it feels almost impossible to step away from their phones, even when they know it would benefit their mind and body.
This constant connection doesn’t just distract us from work or sleep — it pulls us away from what’s truly meaningful.
It’s ironic, when we know it is good for us but we feels so hard to do.
Why is it easier to scroll endlessly than to take a peaceful walk or sit quietly?
The truth is, technology is designed to grab our attention. But just because the phone wins sometimes doesn’t mean we can’t reclaim our focus.
Why Solitude Matters in Our Life
A powerful experiment showed how much humans resist solitude.
Jay Shetty gave an example, people were asked to sit quietly with their thoughts for just 15 minutes or give themselves a small electric shock. Shockingly, 25% of women and 67% of men chose the shock over silence.
Why? Because being alone with our thoughts often feels uncomfortable. We’re so used to distraction that stillness feels unnatural.
Solitude is not loneliness. Loneliness makes us rush into toxic relationships or accept less than we deserve.
On the other hand, solitude helps us understand who we are, where we’re headed, and what truly matters.
There are Two Parts of Solitude Reflecting and Recording
Solitude has two essential parts
- Reflecting – Sitting in stillness, thinking deeply, and allowing your mind to explore.
- Recording – Writing thoughts down in a journal to track progress and growth.
Journaling isn’t just about recording daily events. It’s about becoming the author of your own life instead of a passive participant.
When you write, you give structure to your thoughts, you see your growth over time, and you remind yourself of the bigger picture.
Simple affirmations like “Even small steps are progress” or “I strive for joy, not perfection” can become anchors that guide you during tough times.
Solitude is Powerful
Solitude isn’t a failure, nor is it about being lonely.
It’s the foundation for clarity, confidence, and even love.
When we get comfortable being with ourselves, we no longer need constant validation or distraction.
Take a few minutes each day to:
Put your phone aside.
Sit in stillness.
Ask yourself what’s meaningful but neglected.
Write your reflections down.
You will notice a powerful shift over times. You will stop being a passenger in life and start becoming the author of your own journey.
Conclusion
We can’t always escape to a cave in the Himalayas, but we can create our own “inner cave” of silence anytime, anywhere. Disconnect from the noise — so you can reconnect with yourself.
I am Sunil Kumar, I am fond of mindful wisdom, spiritual practices, and positive living insights for today’s busy world. I am passionate about helping people discover peace and clarity, blends timeless teachings with practical advice that readers can apply in their daily lives.
Through mu writings, I inspire individuals to slow down, reflect, and reconnect with what truly matters—inner calm, compassionate relationships, and a purposeful way of living. My work is rooted in the belief that every new day is an opportunity to cultivate mindfulness, nurture kindness, and build a more peaceful world.